not nearly as destructive as some other influences, but right now, the passion and it’s grip on what i think is right and what others think is right, hence the conflict, is doing it’s fair share of damage.

the vessel in which this conflict exists is mine, i dreamt it, built it, but admittedly had some help, and as such, it’s taken on a grander form than what it would have been had i kept it to myself.

so what is to be done, when 2 people with a similar stake have extremely conflicting views? how to resolve an argument of opinion when the outcome can’t so easily fall into the “let’s agree to disagree” category? unfortunately this isn’t a case of coke or pepsi, a decision has to be made one way or the other and whatever that is, one person will be happy and the other, not.

ultimately, should i want to play the card, i could throw it down and state my preference and be done with it. though i’ve never been one to take the dictatorial route, it is alluring. i could also take the other path and acquiesce, make peace and hope i was wrong all along.

i’ve asked advice on this from a wide range of people, some familiar with this particular issue and some not. while their answers have been helpful, they haven’t been unanimous. that is, i’m still in the same spot as i was last night.

the one thing i continue to hear though, is that despite the experience, despite the list of pros and cons, everyone deserves a chance. and the last thing i want to do is see this all the way to the end, having given in to the other option, and be proven right.

so what it boils down to is, which damned to i take, the one tied to “if you do” or the one tied to “if you don’t?”

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